How to date better when you feel surrounded by fakes, flirts and ghosts

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Dating in Los Angeles can be messy. In “u up?” we’ll explore common dating problems and provide tips on how to date better.


To say it’s difficult to date in Los Angeles is almost like saying the traffic is bad. Yes, we know!

But what if dating didn’t have to feel so debilitating? What if we could create the healthy and fun dating life that we crave so badly? One that would make us excited about the possibility of love and romance? This ongoing series will explore how to approach everything from dating apps and attachments styles to situationships and ghosting.

Let’s get back out there.

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